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Congratulations! You are now engaged and ready to start planning your wedding. One of the firsts steps is to let family and friends know that you are engaged. There are many ways to let people know about your big news such as throwing an engagement party, putting an announcement in a local newspaper, or sending out formal engagement announcements.
So who should be the first people to hear about the great news?
1. If you have children (whether from a previous marriage or not) they should be the first to know.
2. Then the bride’s parents followed by the groom’s parents.
3. Siblings, Grandparents, and other relatives (such as aunts, uncles, cousins, etc…)
*The best way to spread the news is to tell people in person, but this is obviously not possible in many cases because of family and friends who live too far away. A great way to share the announcement with them is with a simple phone call. You can even put the phone on speaker phone with both of you there to tell them together. Or with all of the new technology, you could do a video chat on the computer.
If you opt for an engagement party, you have the choice of making it a surprise party for your guests. Throwing a party is a great way to get everyone there in person to hear about and celebrate your engagement.
Many newly engaged couples also decide to put their announcement in a local newspaper and/or now a days it is becoming more and more common to post the announcement on Facebook (which is a great way to spread the news around). Or why not just create an entire web page for all of your up coming wedding plans and announcements.
The more formal and traditional way is sending out actual engagement announcement cards, which is what I want to focus on. Many of us have relatives who live in other states or maybe even in different countries. These family members may not have had the chance to meet your significant other, or maybe you haven’t had the chance to meet all of his/her family. Whatever the case may be, sending out some type of announcement, preferably with an engagement picture included, is great idea. This way those who live far away don’t feel left out and also have a chance to see who you will be spending the rest of your life with!
It is best to send these announcements out as soon as possible after he pops the question. Typically, the bride’s family will write and send out the announcements, but it really is up to each individual couple and their families. It is becoming more popular for the newly engaged couple to send out their own announcements. If you already have a set wedding date, then it may be a good idea to send out save the date cards instead of an engagement announcement. You do not need to send out both. You can even find save the date cards that can include engagement photos.
If all you want to do is let people know you are engaged and then at a later date, send out wedding information, then you just need to word the announcement as such (i.e. “Mike and Allison are happy to announce their engagement as of April 4, 2011.”) If you want to include wedding information then you would write something along the lines of “Mike and Allison are excited to announce their engagement. They will be married next spring with an official date to be set later this year.”
It really just depends on what each couple wants. If you are planning a small wedding, but would still like people to know about your engagement (even if they are not invited to the wedding ceremony) then you probably don’t want to mention anything about the wedding. Keep it officially about the engagement.
You can keep the engagement announcements very formal, or you can be creative and include a poem, comic strip, and even add some humor. Remember this is your engagement and your wedding. Make it personal to you and your soon to be husband/wife.